If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer.
If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow.
I may have some bad days, but that's ok. I used to have bad years.
My fear is fueled by tomorrow. My regrets are fueled by yesterday. My serenity is fueled by today.
Last night the meeting topic was On willingness. I havent quite got
over myself yet cuz i have a hard time speaking in front of large crowds
lol, but anyway i didnt say what i really wanted to say. Plus this may
help someone who's been trying or thinking about getting sober. I was
the hardest headed fool on the block. U couldnt give me any good advice
at all! If it was about anything other than lining my pockets or making
me feel good then i didnt wanna hear it. I did exactly
what i wasnt supposed to do! I tried for over 20 yrs to figure out why
the 12 step program wouldnt work for me. I made myself believe i was one
of the unfortunates. Truth was i wasnt uncapable of getting honest
thank God, i just wasnt willing. I wasnt willing to be willing to do
anything other than look out for ME! I was in a dilemma. Having to make a
choice between two equally undesirable alternatives, get clean or stay
in the madness. I was broken in so many ways. Spiritually i was empty.
Physically i was in bad shape. Mentally i was absolutely crazy, no doubt
about it. Emotionally i was numb. By the time i got to pathway i was
willing to take some good suggestions. I became willing over a short
time to find my HP and submit. I had become willing to quit fighting and
surrender. Im truly grateful and continue to pray for the willingness
to stay willing to pursue this Grace freely given to me. And to carry
this message that there is Hope. Dont give up! Keep coming back!
"The steps offer a big change from a life dominated by guilt and
remorse. Our futures are changed because we don't have to avoid those
who we have harmed. As a result... we receive a new freedom that can end
Basic Text, p. 39
Many of us come to Narcotics Anonymous full of regrets about our past.
Our steps help us begin to resolve those regrets. We examine our lives,
admit our wrongs, make amends for them, and sincerely try to change our
behavior. In doing so, we find a joyous sense of freedom.
We all have tragedies, pain, and suffering in our lives. We can use these as an excuse to use alcohol or drugs. Eventually this can lead to more tragedies, pain and suffering. There are millions of reasons to use. But using drugs and alcohol compromises who you are and who you can be. If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow.
Researchers at BSMS found that playing ‘natural sounds’ affected the
bodily systems that control the flight-or-fright and rest-digest
autonomic nervous systems, with associated effects in the resting
activity of the brain. While naturalistic sounds and ‘green’
environments have frequently been linked with promoting relaxation and
wellbeing, until now there has been no scientific consensus as to how
these effects come about. The study has been published in Scientific
The lead author, Dr Cassandra Gould van Praag said: “We are all familiar
with the feeling of relaxation and ‘switching-off’ which comes from a
walk in the countryside, and now we have evidence from the brain and the
body which helps us understand this effect.
"Often we have to face some type of crisis during our recovery, such as the death of a loved one..."
Basic Text, p. 98
Every life has a beginning and an end. However, when someone we love a
great deal reaches the end of their life, we may have a very hard time
accepting their sudden, final absence. Our grief may be so powerful that
we fear it will completely overwhelm us - but it will not. Our sorrow
may hurt more than anything we can remember, but it will pass.
We need not run from the emotions that may arise from the death of a
"We begin to see that God's love has been present all the time, just waiting for us to accept it."
Basic Text, p. 46
God's love is the transforming power that drives our recovery. With
that love, we find freedom from the hopeless, desperate cycle of using,
self-hatred, and more using. With that love, we gain a sense of reason
and purpose in our once purposeless lives. With that love, we are given
the inner direction and strength we need to begin a new way of life: the
depression can have devastating effects on people’s lives. In some
cases, the mental disorders lead to isolation, poverty and poor physical
health, things that often cascade to future generations.
A new program at the University of Virginia is aiming to shift the rigid, negative thoughts that come with mental disorders.
Take, for example,
the prospect of asking your boss for a raise. The notion would make many
people feel a bit nervous, but not prevent them from asking. For
others, the notion brings nothing but bad thoughts, perhaps spawning
fears of the boss screaming obscenities and firing them on the spot.